Relation

The jigsaw of love

The string is strong and delicate,

The commitment is bond and freedom,

The conversation is silent and long.

The relationship between two people starts magically though but the real challenge is how you hail it further forever.

Why problems start occurring in a relationship after a short time even though both love and don’t want to hurt each other?

In a silent contemplation at the tides of the sea of love, it dawns on me that a basic human instinct of accepting boredom persists in every person which slowly supersedes the excitement of tapping into something new. Even though everything is alright, and there is nothing to complain about, we unconsciously start pinpointing the smallest of the things which create an enough big issue, and disputes take place.

The route cause of any dispute is the point of deviation from a common point. That’s why it’s preferable to stop arguing at the first place specially when you know what hurts her. Infact sharing worries with her beyond an extent (Please mind – ‘Beyond an extent’) may be troublesome at times because doing this, we are spoiling the mood of other person as well.

Sometimes, there is ‘mis-synchronistion’ between states of mood. When you are sad, she would be happy, and you would not able to express freely thinking, she would get hurt. And if you express, all you get to hear is “You are never happy”. On the other side, when you are happy, or just at the starting point of happiness, she would pick just types of issues, which you won’t be having any answer to.

You have to admit and remember that no person is perfect. You can’t be happy forever with one person you love. We don’t like who or what we have, but rather keep craving for who or what we could not get. The more a person gets closer to you, the more, you tend to see negative, but the far he goes, the more those negativities become his qualities, you can’t find in any other person. That’s what the saddest thing of relation is, “we realise only after someone goes away”.

So, Start living with this realisation everyday, you would stop complaining, for things you have, including life partner.

Try to ‘Accept the love you deserved’.